If you ask, âWhere is the G spot?â you might get a range of answers. Most people have heard of it, of course, and maybe even know that the areaâlocated in the upper vaginal wallâcan produce pleasure and, sometimes, squirting or orgasm. Despite this, the G spot is still not super well understood.
That’s in part because it’s located in a slightly different place for each individual and varies in sensitivity from woman to woman. Beverly Whipple, one of the earliest researchers known for documenting the G spot, defines it as âa sensitive area found in some women in the vagina.â According to her, âSome women find it very sensitive; some women donât. Itâs an area that is there. But not all women find it as sensitive as others.â
No matter where you fall on that spectrum, G spot exploration can be a fun addition to your sexual repertoire. So let’s break down how to find the G spot, what it can feel like, and some tips for how to play alone or with a sexual partner.
The G spot is âan area that is accessible through the upper wall of the vagina toward the stomach,â says We-Vibe sex and relationship expert Dr. Jess OâReilly. âIt’s a shallow zone just beyond the vaginal entrance and considered a series of many sensitive nerve pathways and tissues. It often feels different than the rest of the vaginal canal and is described as more ridge-like and textured once aroused.â
Not everyone uses the term âG spot,â however, with some preferring the phrases âG areaâ or âG zoneâ since it is part of the vagina and not a separate body part. âThere are differing beliefs about the G spot, and research on it has been inconsistent,â explains Dr. Nazanin Moali, sex therapist and host of the Sexology podcast. âSome studies identify a specific area, while others do not. Based on my clinical experience with clients, the G spot seems less like a distinct anatomical structure and more like a region. When people refer to the G-spot, they usually mean an area on the anterior wall of the vagina that, when stimulated, may produce intense orgasms.â
Only about two thirds of women say theyâve experienced G spot pleasure, Moali saysâso if you arenât familiar with this experience, donât fret. As OâReilly puts it, âEveryone has nerve endings and tissues that make up the area described as the G spot or G zone, but that doesnât mean that the area is a universal source of sexual pleasure.â Some people consider the G zone erogenous. Others do not. Just like some people like nipple play, while others prefer to focus elsewhere during sex.
Some experts also refer to the prostate gland as a âmale G spot,â as itâs known to produce similar sensations. But for this article, we’re going to just focus on the female G spot.
Where Is the Female G Spot?
Despite all this talk about the G spot, many people are unaware of where itâs located. âThe name is almost better known than actually where it is,â says Anna Richards, a pleasure positivity educator and founder of the ethical porn site FrolicMe.com. âMany scientists have [weighed in] over the years as to its existence. What is clear from many findings is that it’s a region of sensitivity rather than any specific anatomical part. The presence of it is more an area which offers increased sensitivity in the vaginal anterior wall that provides intense sexual arousal and orgasm in its owners when stimulated.â
Even so, there’s a general area you can use as guidance: The G spot is about 1-3 inches inside the vagina, according to Moali. It’s in a slightly different place for each person, though, which is why thereâs no universal answer to the question, âWhere is the G spot?â
As Richards explains, âQuite simply, each body and orgasm are different. Only your own exploration will provide the answers. So the rule is: Take your time, and use fingers, toys, and lubrication to stimulate and arouse to locate those areas of most pleasure for you. Your body will have its own way of responding to the areas you find, so gentle exploration is the answer.â
So, What Does G Spot Stimulation Feel Like?
Someâthough not allâwomen can experience female orgasms through G spot stimulation. âA common experience shared by my clients is that a G spot orgasm feels like a deep, intense pressure or a fullness sensation within the vagina,â says Moali. OâReilly says many people report that G spot orgasms are more spread throughout the body than clitoral orgasms. âResearchers believe that this may be explained by the fact that the G spot communicates with the brain via the vagus nerve, which wanders throughout the body,â she explains.
But again, not everyone has this experience in their sex life. âSince consistent research data on the existence of the G spot is lacking, itâs difficult to determine how common [G spot orgasm] is,â says Moali. âHowever, about a third of my clients with vulvas report experiencing G spot orgasms.â G spot orgasms are much more likely after lots of foreplay and intense arousal, she adds.
If you initially feel like you might have to pee while stimulating your G spot, this is also normal, says Nicoletta Heidegger, sex therapist and host of the Sluts and Scholars podcast. That’s because the G spot is near the urethra and bladder. However, if you are able to stay with this feeling, it can be a sign that youâre going to squirt (but more on that below).
âMany folks can learn to orgasm or have pleasure through different types of touch and stimulation, but it can take a while for folks to sensitize to new touch,â Heidegger says. âYou can certainly spend more time getting acclimated, getting comfortable, and getting used to G spot touch.â
Heidegger recommends exploring by trying different approaches a few different times, or even taking classes on how to find the G spot. You could also use different sex toys or tools. And if you find it’s not for you, that is normal too. âAll bodies are different,â she says. âFor some people, that area doesn’t feel like much of anything, may feel too sensitive or painful, or just not pleasurable. In that case, find what is pleasurable for your body. This is not one-size-fits-all, and it is OK if you do not enjoy stimulation of that area.â
Can G Spot Stimulation Cause Female Ejaculation?
G spot stimulation is the most common way people experience squirting, also known as female ejaculationâthe release of fluid from the urethra during arousal or orgasm. Though not everyone experiences female ejaculation, you can explore it for yourself by stimulating your G spot with your fingers or a curved dildo or having your partner do so. Some people are more likely to experience squirting if they receive clitoral stimulation simultaneously.
However, itâs still best to make pleasure the goal, rather than squirting or orgasm. âExplore with curiosity for pleasure rather than seeking a specific outcome,â OâReilly advises. âSometimes people will stimulate the G zone solely for the purpose of orgasm or squirting, but pleasure of all kinds can be enjoyed regardless of outcome.â
Are the G Spot and the Clitoris Related?
The clitoris is the female sexual organ most often responsible for orgasm. While the G spot and clitoris are in two distinct places, G spot stimulation can stimulate whatâs known as the inner clitorisâthe part you donât see because itâs inside the body, with two legs and two bulbs wrapping around the vaginal canal.
âThe G spot is part of a far greater clitoris network providing hot spots for stimulation and intense pleasure,â says Richards.
How to Find the G Spot Alone
Arouse Yourself
âIf you reach in to try to locate the G spot right now, you may not feel anything remarkable, as you are not aroused,â OâReilly explains. âAs you stimulate the area and blood flows to the genital region, the tissue begins to swell.â So, try stimulating your clitoris or doing anything else that arouses you before looking for your G spot.
Apply Pressure
Once you have found approximately where your G spot is, you can explore how it feels by pressing on itâfirst gently, and then more firmly if it feels comfortable. âThe G spot responds best to firm pressure, making it different from the clitoris in how it reacts to touch,â says Moali. You will want to press upward toward the stomach. You can also try stroking your G spot using a come-hither motion with your fingers.
Try Different Techniques
Switch up your technique to see what your body responds most to. OâReilly suggests slowly tapping and releasing two fingers against the G spot, making a peace sign with two fingers or a âWâ with three fingers then opening and closing it, or swiping your fingers from side to side against the G spot like a windshield wiper.
Do It Again
Regardless of what you feel during your first foray into G spot stimulation, you may benefit from making another attempt. âYou may find that your experience of pleasure from the G zone (as well as other erogenous zones) changes with many factorsâtime, age, hormonal shifts, menstrual cycle, perimenopause, mood, diet, hydration, and more,â says OâReilly. âIt may be worth exploring various areas and techniques multiple times and remaining open to a range of responses without pressure to experience one specific reaction. Curiosity is key in the pursuit of pleasure.â
How to Find the G Spot With a Partner
Engage in Plenty of Foreplay
Again, the more turned on you are, the more pleasurable G spot stimulation will be, so engage in whatever type of foreplay you enjoy, whether thatâs external fingering, oral sex, mutual masturbation, or having your partner use a sex toy on you. You might even try having an orgasm before you approach the G spot to make sure youâre extra aroused and use lube.
Start With Fingering
âFingers are especially effective because they allow you to target the exact spot your partner enjoys and experiment with different motions to figure out what helps them with experiencing an orgasm,â says Moali. âWhile penetration with an erection may work for some, it doesnât provide the same precision or ability to adjust movements as easily.â
Experiment With Different Positions
You can also try different sex positions to see if you can experience G spot stimulation through intercourse. Some find that being on top offers the most G spot stimulation, especially if they are leaning slightly back and grinding back and forth rather than bouncing up and down. Others prefer doggy style or other positions involving penetration from behind.
Sex Toys That Are Good for Hitting the G Spot
This vibrator, which can be used externally and internally, is curved for G spot stimulation. âThe Raveâs asymmetrical design and longer handle makes the G zone more accessible,â says OâReilly. âThough it appears to be phallus-shaped, it has soft pleasure edges for extra stimulation and an ergonomic handle. You can use it with or without vibrations and can try rocking back and forth, sliding side to side, or pulsing against the inner upper wall.â
This toy provides both clitoral and G spot stimulation, which can make for a blended orgasmâone you feel in both parts of the body. âIts outer arm stimulates the head of the clitoris with technology that uses tiny bursts of air to create a suction-like sensation over the head (and shaft) of the external clitoris,â says OâReilly. âThe inner arm curves upward against the G spot to provide vibrations internally and each function can be controlled individually, so you can customize with gentle suction on the outside with powerful vibrations internally or any combination of your choice.â
This toy can be worn during intercourse to provide the wearer with both internal and external stimulation. One part of it goes inside the vagina, the other goes on the clitoris, and your partner can feel the vibrations too, increasing both peopleâs pleasure. Moali says this is a favorite of clients of hers who enjoy G spot stimulation.
